All the well run complexes have an owners association.
It is, in my opinion, vital to the smooth running of the complex and, if followed by everyone it really does make a huge difference. It takes a lot of hard work in the first year or two but once you've all the ground rules in place it really does flow smoothly.
Has your committee been chosen? Did the owners have a meeting to set this up? If this is not the case then I suggest you need an owners meeting asap to get the ball rolling.
If I'm honest, I do think your being unreasonable in that your jumping in with both feet stating that you don't need anyone to tell you how to live etc and it seems your not happy with the rules laid down so far in the email. It all comes down to a vote in the end and the majority rules. You need to accept this.
Of course there will be things you don't agree with but but ALL OWNERS need to come to an agreement on what is acceptable on your complex and what is the best way forward. As I've said once you have the grounding it does become easier.
It only takes one person to upset the apple cart. If you want the best for your wee bit of Turkey then don't let it be you.
Enjoy the journey, yes it's tedious at times but the rewards far out weigh the negatives.