Thank you Keith for your patience with this. I agree with you, I think it has all been said now, maybe a few years too late but at least it's now done & dusted for me, others will make of it what they will.
Lotty & others with respect, I understand what you are saying, it's uncomfortable reading especially for the majority who have been lucky enough not to encounter the heartache some of us have lived with when things go wrong.
Anne, I can assure you the pair I have, many a man would be envious of! I couldn't agree more with the old sentiment you've quoted 'with friends like you, who needs enemy's'! Strange don't you think that I was such a 'good' friend for 14 years & suddenly 'persona non grata', or do your powers of fairness & deduction not take anything else into your pre-conceived judgements!