To Scunner,
I will not say anymore on this subject but if you would rather take the version of a hotel with vested interest rather than an unbiased observer then that is OK. I know whos version of events are true.
I was sitting with the brides Grandfather when all this happened and was asked quietly by the groom if I had drank certain drinks as they had been billed for them. The same young gentleman asked a number of "guests" and not visitors to the hotel.
When I joined the wedding party at 9pm I just walked straight in and nobody asked me where I was going. I could have been anyone.
There was nobody abusive and I had to drive a number of the guests home as the paty finished rather prematurely.
In fairness to the hotel from what I saw the decoration and presentation was excellent which makes the end result a ridiculous management cockup and it should not have happened.