Calis Beach and Fethiye Turkey Discussion Forum
Calis Beach Forum => Calis Beach Questions and Information => Topic started by: heatherhanum on March 03, 2011, 18:08:40 PM
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My friends husband died this week. He had left a wish that his wife take his ashes to Turkey and scatter them at his favourite place near the sea. She would like to know whether this would be straight forward or present problems and cost money. Can you advise please
Thank you Heather x
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Why tell anyone?
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Yes I think that is the answer - I vaguely remember the same situation quite a few years back and the paperwork and bureaucratic hurdles were a nightmare. Take Jerry's Boat, out to the bay, check wind direction, job's a good 'un. Seriously.
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That's what I told her but she said that the ashes may look like drugs = Prison. I must admit that her comment did make me think. I mean what would you say if customs wanted to check your case and found the ashes. What would happen ? would they believe her and what if they confiscated them? Now my imagination is running away with me.
What do you think ?
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My friend brought her mothers ashes in a wooden casket in her suitcase,
and scattered them as requested in Marmaris bay, I think the chances
of being stopped in customs is slight and if they were why would they
think they were drugs???
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Maybe a letter in Turkish explaining what they are could be attached to the urn - I'm sure they would understand, you are just bringing them in, not any mention needed about scattering. Nikkie (sunnyd) could do you such a letter for twenty quid or something if that brings the peace of mind your friend needs.
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Thank you for your advice I will tell my friend. That's a good Idea Keith a letter of explanation just in case there was a problem, may put her mind at ease. I love this forum I have always been able to rely on the sound knowledge of the members. You are all really great x
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I had same problem the undertaker will give you a letter for costoms .I changed my mind and put him in the garden I didnot want him so far away.
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My husband died 6 years ago and the undertaker in uk gave me his ashes along with a letter certifying what they were. Took some to Goa where we have a place cos he was Indian desent. some to llandudno Wales cos thats where we loved for weekends away and some on his mums grave, I bought rest of them to Turkey to scatter Never had a problem anywhere, in fact I think my husband has now been more places dead than alive
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Why does there always have to be so much red tape around things that are not going to do anyone else any harm, Heather I really hope your friend manages to scatter her husbands ashes in Turkey and so fulfill one of his last wishes,my heart goes out to her at what I am sure is a very emotional and distressing time x
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I think it actually happens more often than we think. It appears to be quite common that people want to end up in their favourite places - customs around the world are probably very used to it. We took ashes out to Africa to scatter across Lake Kariba, and we encountered no problems at all, in fact the reverse. We were shown kindness and respect. A friend took ashes out to Indonesia - again, encountered no problems what so ever. I can think of no nicer place to rest than Turkey, and I've already found my special place for when the time comes !
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Thank you all for your advise and kindness. x
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My uncle wanted something similar so to save any embarrassment and difficulty at the airport I decanted him into 24 pepper pots. I had to fly from Manchester. I still can't believe I left him next to the knives and forks bit at the motorway service station.
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lol
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Still laughing at your comment Keith but sooooo pleased I dont use pepper cos you just might be serious.
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I have a friend who misses her husband terribly - she has his ashes in a wooden box and has taken on ho,iday all over the world in her handbag. She takes him out for drinks, meals and after a few drinks can often be found introducing him to new friends.
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Ha Ha I just knew you couldn't resist could you Very funny x
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A woman brings her husbands ashes home. As ahe walked through the kitchen holding the ashes in the casket close to her chest she began talkng to him. look she said to his ashes there is the kitchen shelf on the floor you promised to fix that and you didn't, There is the kitchen door still hanging loose you promised to fix that and didn't. She stood by the kitchen table, emptied out his ashes on the table and blew. Well there is the blow job I promised you.x:D
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All these jokes have just reminded me of the Royle Family Christmas special
'Mary's in the Dyson!'
'What's that love?'
'Urm we were saying we just didn't expect Mary to die so soon..'
Still cracks me up :D
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Originally posted by tiddly winks
All these jokes have just reminded me of the Royle Family Christmas special
'Mary's in the Dyson!'
'What's that love?'
'Urm we were saying we just didn't expect Mary to die so soon..'
Still cracks me up :D
Yes me too.The scene where Joe is showing Antony's girlfriend holiday photo's...and she says they're nice, but have you got any of Mary when she was alive?
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Just a word of advice if you decide to take the ashes out by boat. Both my in-law's ashes where buried at sea. Both ceremonies where lovely with a Minister present. However, the skipper of the boat, who had done this before gave us some good advice. Winds can change really easily at sea so the ashes were sewn into a canvas bag with a weight at the bottom. When the moment came they were dropped into the sea and a wreath thrown in, then various people threw flowers. Even though both services where sad, it was a lovely way for them to be put to rest. :)
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Thanks for the advice Jacqui what a lovely thing to do. As you say sad but a lovely end to a life story x