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Calis Beach Forum => Calis Beach Questions and Information => Topic started by: siemli on July 18, 2011, 16:50:56 PM
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Parents of teenage children -I need your help here, my lad is 13 (nearly 14): :) and is obviously coming out with us in the first 3 weeks of august.
He gets terribly bored sitting at the restaurants, bars and pools with us and I was wondering if you could persuade your child to join the forum so he could meet other children in the same position and maybe be able to meet up.
I have joined him to the children's forum on here but the majority of the posts on there are from 2010.
There must be other parents with bored teenagers please help :D
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He probally gets bored because he doesnt have his mobile phone or internet access, hows about trying to teach him some good old fashioned conversational skills, I have two teenage Daughters 13 and 15 whom i can take anywhere, they allways mix in to current conversation and have their opionion, they wouldnt dare say they were bored on holiday
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Think having 2 teenage daughters at least means they have someone similar to their own age to talk to and to give them the confidence to join with others duffy, being an only young'un quite different. I remember it from when I went with my parents. This seems like a lovely forum siemli and hopefully someone may be able to help you to 'link him up' with a similar aged lad or two :o)
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Hi.I totally sympathise with you, I also have 2 teenage girls who get very bored and miserable on holiday. You would think I was torturing them! Although they are bored they wouldn't dream of talking to someone or trying to make friends. This year I have resolved myself to just ignore them as they are not old enough to be left home alone.
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duffy my son has no mobile access at home so i doubt that's the issue (my son reads for hours)but thanks for your erm helpful response.
and as snowdrops says (thankyou) your girls have each other-i had 3 years between my sister and i and we had endless amounts of fun together.
he doesn't want to sit and talk to to his parents (he is a teenage boy) and whilst he is very happy (and grateful ) to be taken on holiday he would benefit from some company of children of a similar age.
(and i cant believe i have just had to justify the reasons why my son would need company! )
ccgirl-he also refuses to talk to a someone out of the blue as it its simply not 'cool' :)
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Our grandson is 7 and loves to be with us adults but I would still be considering finding somewhere where he would have a chance to see and play with other children on holiday.
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Lots of forum members will be out in August so I'm sure you will soon find someone his age.... We had the same situation, no teenager enjoys spending so much time with their parents ! We approach it a different way.....we always invite a friend along ! that way they have a brilliant time and we aren't bombarded constantly with 'can we go yet' 'I'm bored...' etc !
Duffy 'how about trying to teach him ......' I think siemli was very polite in her response there....!!!
Good luck siemli - have a fab holiday. We are also out for the first three weeks of August so may well bump into you .
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Where are you staying Siemli? My daughter was an only child and quite reluctant to approach new people. She always did better if we stayed in a hotel rather than apartments. There were usually other children/teenagers around in the hotel - sometimes she would get me to go and talk to the parents as a way of breaking the ice and getting in with their kids. She made many friends over the years and has kept in touch with most of them....... we have even ended up booking holidays to the same places in subsequent years so that the kids can meet up again. Hope you have a fantastic holiday.
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kizkuck-we have our own apartment (down tinkermans road)so its tricky for him to meet kids in the hotel,we do visit pools obviously but we always seem to miss the families with kids!
pookie-Duffy 'how about trying to teach him ......' I think siemli was very polite in her response there....!!!' -i took a very deep breath before i replied,i love this forum-have been a member for years and have learnt to ignore the ignorance that sometimes pops ups.
I cant wait to get back,its not long now is it? :) x
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I think you are confusing ignorance with truth
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Oh dear, how rude!
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Think the truth is that many teenagers are more than capable of holding a decent conversation with adults, but this is not the same kind of company as being with peers and talking about things that are important to them, whatever they may be. Hope you find some more parents in a similar situation to help out Siemli!
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Agreed Serkul1mehmet. Kids need to be with their own peer group and know how to behave around adults.
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Hi we have an 8 year old who is soooooo shy at home but on holiday changes and talks for england,last year she made freinds with some turkish children on our complex and spent most of our holiday with them having great fun teaching them a few english words and learnt a few turkish ones too,i realise ahe is a little younger than your lad siemli but maybe he might enjoy a visit to the water park plenty of teens there lol.Hope you all have a lovely time,be positive not negative x
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What a great forum this is. Just a shame that for few good responses you get when you post, up pops a twat like duffyinthesun
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It is a shame Cennet as when she asked "can I get decent bacon in Kipa or should I bring my own?", members asnwered very politely. She presumes a lot as I think she has in this thread about this young lad who gets a bit lonely on holiday as he is on his own and 'obviously Starman has never used a lounge before" which of course he has. 'Class'?
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Cennet we agree with your post this is a fab forum,we only joined last year and have had all our questions answered in a nice polite way,at the end of the day good manners cost nothing and as my dad always says if you cant say nothing nice then dont say anything.
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on that note let's get back on topic guys n gals
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Originally posted by duffyinthesun
I think you are confusing ignorance with truth
How Very rude!
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8)
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duffinthesun IS very ignorant and a very rude person, and up until that comment i had chosen to ignore him/her,i will however keep an eye open for two very bored teenage girls sitting at their parents table all night making conversation with their parents too scared to admit they are fed up.
my (very polite and well mannered teenage son) will be the one having a good chat with his family over dinner and then scooting off to sit on the sea wall with peers of his own age listing to r and b tunes from the bars (ie being very normal).
I pity duffyinsuns girls quote''my children wouldn't dream of saying they are bored on holiday'' REALLY?? -parents !! can you honestly remember one time when your little one hasn't trundle behind you saying im bored..im hot ect..!! its a normal part of children's development to express their feelings in a particular situation-your girls are either terribly suppressed or very scared.
duffy if you have nothing constructive to say then please don't bother to comment i asked for help not criticism.
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Well said siemli!
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Ditto
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well I was a bit shocked with the verbal exchanges here, some very rude comments, even old Voctor Meldrew here would not comment so negatively about someone I dont know!
I was painfully shy as a child, didnt mix much and had very little self confidence until I joined the Army and there you dont get a choice!
(not advocating shipping the kids off to the 17th/21st lancers! Damn fine regiment though, at least it was until being "merged" --- what a cap badge!)
Kids change, and I remeber meeting a shrinking violet at School who when I met her again was a total "in your face" woman of the World. Sitting in Restaurantys and bars ois boring for kids, but there is so much around the area they can do with you or in a group. Jeep safari, sakhlikent walk, (u can wait by the river sipping a beer!), Tlos with a guide, (you can sit in the cafe -- sipping another beer),
Walk around Kaya Koyu with the free guide book they give you there, well you better go withy him, sorry no beer :)
There was a great posy here called Cal;is/Fethiye First timers -- you must do this with a huge number of "do's"
He may surprise you, one year young boys want to talk about football, play their computer gamns and then all of a sudden, you look round and they are talking to ----Girls! He may well be different this time :)
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johnt -thank you! what a lovely post,i think he will be ok i just want to help him out a bit,but as you say they change,i'm sure he will link up with someone and enjoy the experience a bit better :) i will check out that post xx
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Having taken teenagers on holiday this is my two penny worth.
If they are allowed a little freedom they come into their own especilly in Calis. :D
While they can join in adult conversations during a meal or on an outing, trip, boat etc., they need to be with people of their own age some of the time. (Do we want to make them old before their time?)
I especially like the way that most of the waiters especially on the prom take the time to speak to teens and encourage them to mix with any others that are there. They might want to go to the supermarket or the shops, sit off on the beach wall, chat rubbish according to us but what is the harm in that? 8)
I'm sure he will find a mate or two in Calis Siemli. 8)
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The aqua park is a great place for teens to meet others. My daughter will often meet new friends there. We used to book boat trips on the first few days of the hols and that also ensured new friends by the time we were back in the harbour.
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Siemli, I posted a similar request a couple of years back as I knew my two girls (at the time 14 and 16) would be bored sitting around with us day and night on a three or four week holiday. They love restaurants and bars (especially if they can pop off and use the internet for a bit!) and will have some good conversations and a laugh with us, but they would much rather, like most kids of that age, be listening to their type of music and eyeing up the passing talent!!! :o
(Very difficult to be talking about the boys when your 'rents are close by! :-\ )
I arranged a meet up for parents with other teenagers at a set time and place (early afternoon at Anna bar). My girls were appalled that I would do such a thing, and I really had to drag them along, with them protesting at how embarrassing it would be!!!! We were the first to arrive, and I thought it was going to be a disaster, with no-one else turning up! 8)
In fact, loads of families arrived. The staff looked amazed as it was completely empty when we arrived, and suddenly the whole place was packed, with noisy teenagers and everyone ordering food and drinks (I wished I was on commission)! It was fab - well, it was for the parents! We met loads of other people from cbf; everyone wandered round asking who was who etc. The teenagers? They all looked embarrassed/sheepish, either sunbathing (the girls!) or going into into the pool and staying with the people they already knew!!!
Eventually, but not quite sure WHEN it happened as none of them appeared to even talk to each other, the older ones managed to arrange a meet-up, without parents, for that evening! (The kids ranged from 5 to about 19.) It was a bit of a nightmare to be honest, as we couldn't get them to come home! We were all sat in a bar very close by, and kept an eye on them, but they had fun (the older ones sneaking a cocktail or two!) and by the time we finally managed to get them home, it was about 2am!!!! [:o)]
They sat on the beach, laughing and talking about music, messing around at the edge of the water etc, some of them just generally flirting! (In fact, that was probably just my two! :o )
The following day a few of them met up at the water park! We dropped the girls off and picked them up a few hours later, giving us some time to ourselves, which, part way through our holiday, was a nice break. We're not all normally together for every waking minute of the day, and, as much as we love them, it was nice to have a bit of time to ourselves. (Think I remember we used this precious time as most adults would - we went to the market and bought fruit, veg etc - something the girls would have hated. [^] )
The girls kept in touch with some of the others for quite a while afterwards, and the younger one (on her own last year!) saw one or two of them again last summer.
She has also met regularly, and keeps in touch on msn and facebook, with Amanda Bullock's daughter; again, someone she met in Calis. These two rarely talk to each other in front of us, but don't stop once they're out of earshot and have become good friends!!! :)
As much as we love our kids, and hopefully vice versa, they do need the company of others of their own age to truly be themselves. :)
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That sounds like an excellent idea! We also are over in August with our 13 year old daughter. In fairness, she has no problem mixing - but that is assuming of course there are people to mix with! A big "meet" would be a brilliant idea.....
We went over a few years back with my son who at the time was aged 15. He absolutely hated it and wild horses wouldn't get him back there. There was nobody at all his age and hated sitting in restaurants and bars. We are getting married in Fethiye next year and I am forcing him back for that. He is now 21 so I am far more optimistic! I suspect he may be more liking bars this time around!
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Guvens Bar in Calis is good for the youngsters. Our two daughters aged 10 & 13 like a few hours in the bar every few days to use the internet to keep intouch with grandparents & friends back home. They also like to make new friends when they are on holiday it gives them a break from us and more importantly us a break from them. The water park in Calis is also good for youngsters.
A four week holiday is a luxury each year but to keep the girls entertained we hire bikes and cycle along Koca Calis area and also aim to get them mixing with other children when we can.
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Hi - I am divorced and concious that I will only enjoy my holiday if my 12 year old is happy. I have booked at the Harman as it gets tops marks from families and is near the water park - both wonderful opportunities for my son to find like minded peers. Please PM me if you want to set up an accidental meeting at the hotel or the water park.
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Ooops - sorry that I neglected to say when I am over - July 28 to 11 August. Just read what someone said about an arranged meet. What about agreeing to be at the water park on a particular day? We would have to find a way of identifying each other then. My son still prefers the company of boys and he is quite lively.
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HI,
We dont often have internet connection but will try and keep a look out when we do.
We are only a road away from Harmen so Liam will pop over today if you are there? failing that we are currently in dost hotel now 600yards past water park toward Fethiye on the same side.