i never got chance to read spirits first blog,, however what i know he will have been trying to convey is that 1,i was assaulted very badly on my front doorstep by my then partner.
and 2, that another lady who,s partner also works in the same bar has been regularly assaulted and hospitalized in esnaf as a result.
spirits knows the bar and the people in it. and quite understandibly finds it a bit disturbing that this could be happening under peoples noses. and that the men involved are not affected in any way or held accountable. as in most cases of domestic/relationship violence the hurt party is too terrified to do anything about it... especially in a country where the men look the other way and literally protect each other. the moral of the story...ladies be very carefull in choosing a partner out here as the cultural differences and what is expected of you is very different to what we are used to in the uk in some cases.
if it happens once that is once too often... GET OUT!