Appropriate behaviour?!

[marina]

How awful to have to come across someone like that Menthol - especially when you couldn't get away from her.

It really annoys us when we see people being rude to, or just ignoring, the 'front of house' guys.  They are only there trying to do a job and won't be particularly well paid for it either.  Most of them are really nice and we enjoy having a chat and a bit of friendly banter with them.  If you don't want to eat in their place that night, just as sarahandmark have said, a smile and no thank you is polite and quite acceptable. 

I would have been just as angry as you Menthol and also unable to keep my mouth shut!!   

[Scunner]

I think the worst are a hard core of the 'established' expats who sit at their usual table on their usual chair, telling everyone how the Turks haven't got an effin clue how to do this or that. In full earshot of everyone, including the Turkish staff. Repulsive.

[Menthol]

Eugh, I can just imagine them, Scunner.

To be fair though, I've seen less rude behaviour from the holidaymakers in Turkey than in other foreign resorts.

Worst ever was Albufeira a couple of years ago. A big shiny red brute of a British yob who threw his food at the waiter. Husband had to hold me back from decking him 

[Dutchie]

If you go into anyone's home remove your shoes at the door.
If you buy from a shop (probably early in the day) and the shopkeeper throws your money on the floor in front of you, don't worry, it's a Turkish custom that it's lucky to throw the first money of the day down on the floor. 

I've never seen that.
But I'm not normally awake until 10am lol

Quite often a customer will throw it on the ground as well when they know that they are the first to have bought anything.
It's called "siftah".

[jrichards1]

I'm an advocate (a snow ball at Christmas ) and do mediation and conflict resolution work. You would not believe how rude, uncooperative and selfish some people are. I have to be totally impartial and keep a poker face and not react, but need to grit my teeth through some meetings.

Holiday mentality is also a mystery to me. Unknown chemicals and hormones must flood the brain and if we dare to complain about their behavior we are usually told to "chill out, were on holiday".

[maximumtom]

Ali, at the bike shop in Calis, always threw the money I gave him on the floor, whatever time of day. I always took it as a comment on the amount of tip   . No really, he's a great guy.

[samandmark]

Evening all     thank you all for your replies, very enlightening!  We will make sure we are nice to the front of house chaps, we had similar experiences in Bulgaria a few years ago.  Manners cost nothing after all 

Mark has just reminded me to ask for some advice or any ideas on 'tipping'?  Is it usual to tip everyone?! (some countries expect it I believe).  Should we work on an average 10% tip for restaurant bills, and for others just round it up abit?!

Thanks again, Sam & Mark (he's home from work now!)   

[Highlander]

We normally work on 10% in restaurants but it does depend on the mealbeing edible and the service reasonable.

[Scunner]

We decided that tipping for lunch or drinks was not necessary. Also I was told nobody tipped taxi drivers till us Brits turned up. We tip when service has been very good and tip well. If the service was just average/ok we don't tip.

[julesbob0303]

We always tip if the service is good; if it's not, then they don't get a tip!  Simples!  

Samandmark - one person to avoid (and you're allowed to be rude to him should he approach you   ) is the change man in Fethiye, usually standing outside a clothes shop on the main road.  I'm sure you've read about him on here; he's definitely best avoided, unless you like being ripped off   .

You'll love Calis - everyone is very chilled, laid back and friendly!  Enjoy your holiday   .