Step1 - Our UK house is on the market!

[Highlander]

janice9171 has not appreciated my comments on this thread and she is entitled to hold that opinion.

But it is clearly a very important decision for her to make and perhaps we should not be straying slightly off topic and leave this topic to views and comments relating to her decision.

I do however feel strongly about views being expressed so I will start another thread if that's ok.

[Janice1971]

Highlander I dont think you appreciate the weight of this move, as stated before my husband is so depressed here, what would you do if it was your wife? I am just trying to make the right decision for all of my family, again I have lived in Turkey before and am not a complete novice, there are ways of saying things without coming across as being so blunt!  I dont for one minute ever want to come back to UK once we have made this big move, however if we have tried our best and pulled out all the stops, why shouldnt I benefit from a bit of support from the state?

[teetee]

I hardly see what your relatives neighbours have to do with this discussion but as you are so incensed by their behaviour why do you not try and do something about it?

We all have opinions on the workings of the state benifit system but just because some are able to "abuse" it doesn't mean that it should automatically be the answer to all.  

As for the main point of this discussion, a lot of those who have commented wish Janice1971 and her family all the best with this potential move but that to increase the level of success you have to be realistic and planned, which in theory will give them as a family a far greater chance of success, which is what I beleive most would wish them.

Karennina sorry if I have enranged what is obviously a sore subject for you and your friend

[Highlander]

Janice1971

I have ready over my posts and apologise if you found them to be blunt. But you did ask for people's views and I have expressed mine.  In fact I have only commented on general issues and not your situation specifically. On the issue of state benefits and I was responding to a point raised by karennina. I have already stated that I thought this was straying of topic and I started another thread so as not to detract from what is clearly a very important topic for you .

You asked what I would be if it was my wife. Well if I asked for advice on a public Forum, which I probably wouldn't have, I wouldn't discard anything negative that was said. I would thank the people for taking the time to give me their honest opinion and weigh up the pros and cons before making what I know is a monumental decision for anyone.

I hope that whatever your decide, it works out in the best possible way for everyone in your family.

[Denise40]

Also having read this link with interest, what is so nice read is that Janice1971 is supporting her husband and is considering coming back to Turkey where he will be happier, my daughters marriage might had survived if she and her husband had stayed in Turkey, she learnt Turkish and spoke fluent but they both had to work in the UK and it put lots of pressure on them, with the change of lifestlye for him, and in regards Janice 1971 girls, is the UK school system really that great, I worked with 16+ after they left school and the chances of finding work is very low, that's if they can read and write! - many are pushed into universary for pointless subjects only not to find work in the area they have studies for, so complete waste of time. Today in Fethiye was passing a school we saw girls skipping and holding hands, also not allowed in todays UK playgrounds!

Our grandson wants to come to Turkey in a couple of years time when he leaves school and all being well, he can, he has Turkish citizenship and if he wants to work in a restaurant or on a boat the family would rather him do that - then to hang around with his unemployed mates!  He isn't academic but he isn't lazy, he already helps out in local places when he's here for the summer - he would come tomorrow if he could but its too late to pull him out of UK school now as exams are near!

Nowhere is perfect and life is what you make it, but I wish you luck in the future and hope it all works out for you all.

[busybee]

Hi Tracey have sent you an email

[busybee]

Soreeee the above post is meant to say Janice........An everything moment:D

[Karennina]

TeeTee this is my last post in this thread as it seems to be getting highjacked.
I have not said my friend's neighbours have anything to do with this topic, they don,t I was merely using them as one and I repeat one of example of what I was referring to.
And yes we have informed people in the authorities about what is going on around there, purely as there are two young children involved here and I could not live with myself if something happened to one of them and I sat back and said not one word. over and out from me and jolly good luck Janice in what ever you decide

[Steve (redding43)]

Janice1971, just wanted to say, good luck with your move....I can see the decision cannot have been an easy one but family is king and to me it is a brave decision but one I completely understand why you are making it.

Steve

[janmack]

Janice (from another Janice you have to folllow your heart and I really do think you already know that.  You know you can make it work.  Wishing you all the best. xx